Congratulations! You're Engaged!

The Diocese of Tulsa requires formal marriage preparation for the Sacrament of Matrimony. in the Diocese of Tulsa & Eastern Oklahoma. You should contact your local parish or the parish where you hope to be married at the beginning of the process. 
 

1. Initial meeting with Clergy of your Catholic parish. Discuss marriage preparation requirements, the prenuptial investigation, and set a wedding date approximately 6-12 months from the initial meeting with your clergy. 

 

2. Pick a Preparation Program. Sign up for Catholic Engaged Encounter (in person) or online Catholic Marriage Prep. Both are offered in English and Spanish. To register for either program LEARN MORE HERE  

 

3. Natural Family Planning (NFP). Complete an online course or attend an NFP introductory session at the Marian Medical Clinic in Tulsa. It is strongly encouraged to attend a full NFP course and allow a few months of cycle charting before your wedding.

Further details available are at NATURAL PLAN (Spanish version coming soon) or LEARN MORE ABOUT IN PERSON NFP SESSIONS AND INSTRUCTORS HERE. 

Upcoming Natural Family Planning Sessions

Meet with Clergy. Complete the FOCCUS inventory with priest, deacon or trained layperson. Partner with a mentor couple at parish discretion.

 

5. Plan the Wedding Mass. Select clergy, lectors, altar servers, and liturgical music for your Nuptial Liturgy. Discuss Sunday Mass considerations and honeymoon travel Sunday Mass obligation. Meet with a parish wedding planner, if applicable. Plan rehearsal the evening prior to the wedding Mass.

 

6. Meet with Clergy. Finalize wedding Mass celebration details. Voice any final concerns, ask questions, seek counseling if needed, or inquire about special considerations. Get parish information and plan to get involved.

 

7. Your Wedding Day has Arrived! Wedding Rehearsal & Wedding Liturgy. You made it!

 

8. You're married. Now what? Get involved at your local parish; invite your pastor to bless your home; volunteer your time for parish events; attend marriage enrichment events sponsored by your parish or the Diocese; continue your faith journey; Remember, your faith is not just on Sundays at Mass. 

Podcasts

• Eastern Oklahoma Catholic Podcasts
• The Purpose of Marriage and Family Formation | Tulsa Time with Bishop Konderla
• Catechism in a year with Fr. Mike Schmitz
• Divine Intimacy Radio
• Pre-Cana with the Pope Podcast

Watch

• The Purpose of Marriage and Family Formation | Tulsa Time with Bishop Konderla
• NCBC Talks by Father Tad

Other Online Resources 

• United States Conference of Catholic Bishops (USCCB)
• For Your Marriage
• National Catholic Bioethics Center
• Dating, Marriage Prep & Marriage Mentorship/Three Hearts Institute
• Discover your Love Language
• The Fertility Awareness Database
• Whole Mission
• Natural Womanhood
• Vitae Fertility
• Pope Paul VI Institute
• Chastity
• Domestic Church Families

 Catholic Church Documents

• Humanae Vitae (July 25, 1968) 

Books

• Men, Women and the Mystery of Love: Practical Insights from JP II's Love & Responsibility
• Three to Get Married 
• New Book for Newlyweds: Just Married
• Holy Sex! A Catholic Guide to Toe-Curling, Mind-blowing, Infalliable Loving
• True Friendship: Where Virtue Becomes Happiness
• Couples, Awaken Your Love
• On Marriage & Family Life: St. John Chrysostom
• Theology of the Body for Beginners
• The Story of a Family: The Home of St. Therese of Lisieux
• Discernment of Spirits in Marriage
• Catholic Bioethics and the Gift of Human Life

Social Media | Instagram


Instagram:
@dioceseoftulsa
@fabmbase
@napro_fertility_surgeon
@femmhealth
@precanawiththepope
@whole.mission
@pearlandthistle
@luminahealthservices
@readyourbody
 

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For questions:

Marriage and Family Life Coordinator
[email protected]
 
Natural Family Planning Coordinator
[email protected]
 

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